thoughts on love

Assalamualaikum.

Scientist researched on love and says that it's all mediated by chemical chain of reaction. how phenyl ethylamine is created when you are attracted to someone. then dopamine and norepinephrine being produce whenever you thought about that person, making you feel very excited. this is where all those physiological manifestation took place: flushed cheek, racing heartbeat. those feeling is toned down by serotonin that makes you relax and put yourself in a state of happiness. then those feeling moves to another stage. Commitment. hormones called oxytocin and vasopressin are responsible for feeling of connection with someone, ties our feelings to memories and contribute to fidelity to the one you love. huh, science always finds its way to prove everything.

But above all those chemicals and scientific terms
used to explain love, it's your mind that controls your heart. you choose to love someone and your heart responds to that feeling. your mind is the one who decide who and what kind of memories for you to focused on. you choose who you want to love. 

And above all your ability of logical reasoning and deciding whom to love, there are much more powerful forces that determine your Qada' and Qado'. As muslims, we should never forget that Allah had fated with whom we are destined to be. no matter how strong your feeling or how deep your connection with that someone, if he's not written as part of your life then, there's nothing more you can do about it. And even though Allah had written our destiny, that doesn't mean that we should just wait and see. love is something that you should look and fight for. how? by doa and creating chances without defying His sermon. If we abide to His law, Insya'allah the chances will come.

For three years I've been analyzing what I felt for that person. finding all the logical explanation to what i felt, i have come to this conclusion. I did not fell in love with him, instead with his attitude. something that will not change unless some distortion or injury occurs to his prefrontal cortex. and as long as he keep being who he is today and I keep choosing to register all the memories i have about him, i can't see the end to what i'm feeling. and the only effort that i'm capable of now is doa. hoping that he'll find someone that Allah had destined for him, and pray that i'll find mine too.